Tag: “it’s complicated”

  • INTRAfaith Relationship: It’s Complicated

     

    its-complicatedOne of the options on Facebook for announcing your relationship status is “it’s complicated.” And for some people, entering into interfaith relationships can be complicated, if not downright threatening. Then add in the need for intrafaith conversation  and things can get really challenging. For this reason, I love this poem/prayer by C.S. Song.unknown-2

    Choan-Seng Song is a Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Theology and Asian Cultures at the Pacific School of Religion in Berkeley. I had the privilege of being part of a theological discussion group during my doctoral studies there. Professor Song opened my eyes to other ways of looking at Christianity, specifically through an Asian lens. Once I realized how thoroughly western my theology and Christology was, a new way into interfaith thology opened up before me.

    51matoyngwl-_sx331_bo1204203200_But Dr. Song is not just an academic. He’s also a pastor. And, in my opinion, nothing expresses this more than this poem/prayer, which was published in the PSR newsletter. I’ve used it innumerable times in workshops as a way to reassure people just entering into interfaith and intrafaith relationships that discomfort is to be expected, in fact it’s perfectly normal.

    A PRAYER: It Is Difficult, O God

    It is difficult, O God
    it was much easier before
    we lived in our own world
    we took that world for the entire world
    we believed we were your chosen people
    with special privileges and advantages
    we thought we had nothing to learn
    from people who were different from us
    in what they believed and how they lived
    but suddenly all these people are all over the place
    they come to live in our midst
    they speak all sorts of languages
    they practice different faiths
    they even dress differently.

    It is complicated, O God
    it was much simpler in the past
    we lived among like-minded people
    we used to understand each other
    we ate the same food
    we shared the common thoughts
    we even acquired the same habits
    we seldom ventured out of our compound
    we were contented with what we knew
    but all of a sudden the walls that separated us from other people crumbled
    we have lost control of our life
    we are afraid we are no longer master of our own destiny.

    But it has never been easy for you, O God
    it has never been simple for You
    You have always dealt with a world of wonderful plurality
    with many people and many nations
    with many cultures and religions
    with women as well as men
    with children as well as men and women.

    But instead of complaining, You enjoy it
    instead of becoming upset, You delight in it.
    Though it is still difficult for us
    help us, O God, to enjoy it with all its multiplicity
    though it is still too complicated for us
    enable us, O God, to cope with it
    with the spirit of gratitude and wonder
    and inspire us to know ever more deeply
    the mystery that is Yours
    the truth You alone can disclose to us.